Families, Couples, Adults and Teens



We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses.

With the right supports, I believe that we are all capable of growing to become the change we seek in our quest for balance and harmony in our lives. We will focus on your strengths and build from there as we resolve problems and issues interfering with your life. I see my role as an active participant in your process.

You can heal from sadness, depression, anxiety, trauma and all manner of relationship issues. I will help you find the pathway to healing that is right for you. Communication and forgiveness are often big stumbling blocks for couples. By learning active listening and empathy skills, you will become empowered to resolve the issues that are important to each of you. Couple Therapy is about supporting you in developing a stronger relationship as you learn to relate to each other in a healthier and more productive manner.

I have many years of experience working with children and their families both as a formal and informal educator, as a counselor, rabbi and therapist. Some parental involvement in children’s therapy should be anticipated. Especially when families restructure, children often experience difficulty with attachment issues or may have been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder. In such cases, having a safe place to talk through the issues of their lives can be most rewarding.


Parent Coordination / Parenting Plans




Help for Families in Conflict

We all want our kids to grow up happy, healthy and well adjusted. Your kids are among the one million children annually whose lives are affected by divorce. More than half will grow up with parents who mean well but are constantly in disagreement. It is not the divorce itself that has the greatest impact on a child. It is the conflict between parents during and after the divorce that make the difference between a child who is unscathed and the one who is scarred for life. Children raised in an atmosphere of unrelenting conflict are four to five times as likely to grow up with serious emotional and behavioral difficulties. Ongoing conflict and litigation are not the answers to raising healthy kids! The choices you make will significantly impact your child's adjustment to their situation. To help your child navigate divorce successfully demands that you keep a vigilant eye for obstacles that can harm your child. You have the power to create a family story that fulfills your vision for both you and your child. The key is your commitment to ensure the safe passage of your child through this significant life change. Litigation is expensive and is just not a viable approach to parenting. Working with a trained Parent Coordinator can help minimize the adverse effects of divorce on children and their families..

You can heal from sadness, depression, anxiety, trauma and all manner of relationship issues. I will help you find the pathway to healing that is right for you. Communication and forgiveness are often big stumbling blocks for couples. By learning active listening and empathy skills, you will become empowered to resolve the issues that are important to each of you. Couple Therapy is about supporting you in developing a stronger relationship as you learn to relate to each other in a healthier and more productive manner.

I have many years of experience working with children and their families both as a formal and informal educator, as a counselor, rabbi and therapist. Some parental involvement in children’s therapy should be anticipated. Especially when families restructure, children often experience difficulty with attachment issues or may have been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder. In such cases, having a safe place to talk through the issues of their lives can be most rewarding.

What is Parent Coordination?

Parenting Coordination is a relatively new child-centered process for divorced and divorcing parents in high conflict situations. This is accomplished via education, mediation and ongoing case management. The PC helps high-conflict parents who have demonstrated an inability to communicate and make joint parenting decisions. Parenting Coordinators assist parents to establish and maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship by reducing parental conflict and the risk factors that influence a child’s post-divorce adjustment. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from the devastating stress of being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parenting Coordination is not therapy. It is psycho-educational support to help moms and dads learn to do the business of parenting their children together and without further hurt to the children. You are divorced, but you are still a family!

Qualifications


There are numerous qualifications to become a Parenting Coordinator. An individual needs to achieve a master's level degree in psychology, counseling, law, medicine, social work, or related field, and have a minimum of five years professional experience. PCs have accomplished 40 hours of Divorce Mediation training and 24 additional hours of training specific to the needs of High Conflict families in topics such as developmental stages of children, mediation and legal issues, stages and effects of divorce, and problem solving techniques. PCs are also trained and experienced in family systems theory.. Parenting Coordinators assist parents to establish and maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship by reducing parental conflict and the risk factors that influence a child’s post-divorce adjustment. The overall emphasis is to offer children the opportunity to grow in a home environment free from the devastating stress of being caught in the middle of parental conflict. Parenting Coordination is not therapy. It is psycho-educational support to help moms and dads learn to do the business of parenting their children together and without further hurt to the children. You are divorced, but you are still a family!

Andy

is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who is trained in both Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Divorce. He has both basic and advanced training in Parent Coordination and is certified as a Family Matters GAL (guardian ad litem) by the CT Judiciary. He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage anf Family therapy, a practitioner member of the Connecticut Council for Non Adversarial Divorce (CCND), the Academy of Professional Family Mediators and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC). He is a practitioner member of the Connecticut Council for Non Adversarial Divorce (CCND), the Academy of Professional Family Mediators and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC).

Benefits of Parent Coordination



Collaborative Divorce

As a trained Mediator and Collaborative Divorce Coach.my commitment is to supporting you in finding resolution to conflict as your neutral, guide and coach.

The practice of Alternative Dispute Resolution (Mediation and Collaborative Divorce) is to settle all of the issues by mutual agreement. You will be in charge at all times. You can expect a reduction in conflict as you learn new skills to communicate with your partner. The Collaborative Team is invested in working together to help you reach agreement.

As a Neutral Divorce Coach in the collaborative process, you can expect that I will help move along the process of the divorce by helping everyone involved stay focused on moving forward, rather than looking back. If children are involved, I will help you create a parenting plan that works for you and your children. Children are unique and considering their needs, schedules and developmental phases will be a priority in the process.


Divorce Coaching

OK – you’ve made your decisions and you and your spouse are going to divorce.

Now what? There are a variety of ways to get divorced and the way you choose will certainly impact both the process of your divorce and how you feel following the divorce. There are pluses and minuses to attorneys, mediation, collaboration and “pro se”.

Your choices will also have significant financial impact for you both now and in the future. Like everything else, the more you know prior to initiating the process the better chance you have of making the choice that is right for your particular situation.

You can heal from sadness, depression, anxiety, trauma and all manner of relationship issues. I will help you find the pathway to healing that is right for you. Communication and forgiveness are often big stumbling blocks for couples. By learning active listening and empathy skills, you will become empowered to resolve the issues that are important to each of you. Couple Therapy is about supporting you in developing a stronger relationship as you learn to relate to each other in a healthier and more productive manner.

Our session normally lasts one hour. A second session can be scheduled if you find you have more questions. Referrals can be made to a variety of skilled clinicians in each discipline. Session cost is $250. If you require a second meeting the cost is $150.

 

We will discuss the options and the costs generally associated with each approach. You will learn the pros and cons of each approach so that you can make the best choice for you!


Happy Stories ...

“I have been attending parent-counseling sessions with Andy for several months now.

I did not want to go to the sessions because of the great anxiety they brought on. Andy has helped me through a most difficult time in my life with his wisdom and compassion.”

"His approach to my situation

opened my eyes to different tools and techniques that could be applied to my anger. He has helped me work through problems utilizing years of counseling experience and expertise. He has a great capacity to get to the core of the problems faced by individuals dealing with issues associated with marital relationships or children."

“After a challenging separation

and a complete breakdown in communication, Andy was the first person in two years to make progress with our situation. He educates and empathizes with parents, keeping the needs and feelings of the children at the heart of every matter.”

“I have gained a new perspective

on my responsibilities to my children as a divorced parent and am no longer afraid to communicate with my children's father. I highly recommend this service to any separated parents who love their children.”